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While I have often heard the idea that married couples should “never be alone with a member of the opposite sex” and in some cases going so far as to say you should not even be friends, Glass outlines a much more practical yet still safe way to work with and have relationships with those of the opposite sex (or same sex, depending on one’s orientation):
- Be completely open with your partner about what is going on between you and the other person.
- Don’t have lunch at work with the same person alone every time. If you have to travel with them, meet in public rooms, and never in a room with a bed.
- “Avoid emotional intimacy with attractive alternatives.”
- If you need to talk to someone else about your marriage, be sure that person is a “friend of the marriage,” i.e. they support your relationship. Make sure your friends are supportive of your relationship.
- Discuss your online friendships with your partner. (Currently my wife does not have facebook, for example, so we talk about my online friends occasionally.)
Facts about infidelity:
- It is normal to be attracted to another person, but fantasizing about what it would be like to be with them is a danger sign.
- A happy marriage does not prevent infidelity.
- Emotional affairs are characterized by secrecy, emotional intimacy, and sexual chemistry. They can be more threatening than brief sexual flings.
- Only 3% of unfaithful spouses end up marrying their affair partners.